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Life Area: Personal
Topic: Emotional Intelligence
What’s Stopping You?!
Jack Canfield once said, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” And he’s right. But I’m going to take it one step further.
Pain, discomfort, shock, boredom, impostor syndrome, awkwardness, fear, being wrong, failing, ignorance, looking stupid: your avoidance of these feelings is what is stopping us from a life beyond our wildest imagination.
These are the feelings that accompany a life of success. And yet, these are the very feelings we relentlessly avoid!
Interesting how that works, right?
Wealth, optimal health, incredible relationships, deep spiritual maturity are all available to us. And, the primary obstacle in our way is how we feel about what we need to do to have these things.
Most people aren’t willing to feel difficult emotions on a regular basis. However, if you’re willing to disregard how you feel in the moment, you’ll have access to a world of opportunity unavailable to 99% of the population.
When we feel the fear and do it anyway, we get the satisfaction of living life on our terms. Instead of being a hostage to our emotions, we get to experience them more deeply.
Ironically, once we break past the emotional blocks and just act, it’s never as bad as we think it will be.
Make the decision and act
Napoleon Hill said, “When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.” Similarly, Tim Grover has said, “When you crave the end result, the hard work becomes irrelevant.”
Put most simply: when your “why” is strong enough, you’ll be willing to do any “how”. The clearer and bigger the why, the bolder the how. Hence, if you 10x your why, you’ll have insights about how to do things far more effectively than the norm. As Supercoach Dan Sullivan has said, “When 10X is your measuring stick, you immediately see how you can bypass what everyone else is doing.”
If your dreams are big enough, you’ll have to do different things than you’ve been doing. Not all “hows” are created equal. You’ll have to do things you don’t feel in the moment like doing. You’ll resist the actions you need to take.
Here are some opt-used quotes on the topic. Maybe you’ve heard a few of these:
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got.”
“ What got you here, won’t get you there.”
“If you want bold results, you need bold actions.”
“If you want it bad enough, your momentary feelings won’t stop you.”
“ How you feel right now is irrelevant.”
“Of course it’s out of your comfort zone. Of course it may not feel good in the moment.”
“A person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”
Tim Ferris, author of The 4-Hour Work Week
Do something right now you’ve been procrastinating. Do something right now that shocks your emotional system. You’ll quickly realize it wasn’t so bad.
Then do it again, with increasing intention.
This is the essence of 10x thinking. Certain “hows” will get you 10x results. Most people won’t go there. Are you willing to go there?
How big is the emotional roller-coaster of life you’re going to ride? Small rises and dips? Or huge rises, drops, spins, and twists? Life is meant to be lived, emotions are meant to be felt and experienced. We get to design the roller-coaster.
Do you want the result bad enough that you’re willing to feel absurd, horrible, amazing, ridiculous, and stupid to get there? Or, would you prefer to feel safe and regretful? The choice is yours. But everything you want is available. And the more extreme the emotional shock you’re willing to walk through, the faster you’ll get the results you’re seeking.
Your most honest work will always be your best work. More than likely, it will also be your most successful work.
Trust Yourself
There must come a point when we stop worrying ourselves over the opinions of others. Even the opinions of our heroes. We work and ideas must eventually come completely and unapologetically through us. Only when we fully trust ourselves and our ideas will we be able to create in a bold, honest, and beautiful manner. No matter how “successful” you become, trusting yourself never gets easier. In fact, it only gets harder with more external noise and pressure. But you will never be happy with yourself or satisfied with your work if you don’t do what you truly felt inspired to do.
Your most honest work will always be your best work. More than likely, it will also be your most successful work.
For information on overcoming your limiting beliefs, click [here] to listen to my Talk with Tom podcast Episode #10: Defeating Your Limiting Beliefs.
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