Monthly Archives: June 2018

Talk with Tom: Episode #38 | TwT Motivational Minute: What Do You Want?

 

In this episode of the Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, Tom asks, “What do you want?”. Most people aren’t able to answer this simple question. Here’s some actions and practices to help you focus in on knowing what you want.

Every month Tom shares topic after topic to Grow Your Life and Build Your Business. If you’re not already a subscriber, join us. Talk with Tom is 100% free, and there are special benefits available only to our subscribers, so be sure you subscribe yourself on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and we look forward to seeing you right back here on the last Wednesday of every month with Talk with Tom.

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MAJOR FAUX PAS – I need your help!

 

 

Email List Redeux

 

 

MAY I PLEASE HAVE YOUR HELP AND IN RETURN GIVE YOU A GIFT FOR YOUR ASSISTANCE?

 

This past week we had a bit of a faux pas here at Success Series…you see, our email list was accidentally wiped and we need to recreate it by having you PLEASE OPT-IN AGAIN TO RECEIVE OUR EMAIL NOTIFICATIONS OF NEW BLOG POSTS, ANNOUNCEMENTS, ETC. Our mailing list is our main form of communication to you, the Success Series Community.

 

Just look over to the right-hand column on this page and you’ll see an opt-in form to input your email address to be added to the list. In return you will receive a FREE download of my 2018 Success Planner or the 10 Basics of Personal Finance Worksheet. >>>>>>>>

 

OR SIMPLY CLICK HERE >>>>>>>>>>>

 

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4 Things Holding You Back From Being Your Best Self

 

 

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Life Area: Personal 
Topic: Personal Development

4 Things Holding You Back From Being Your Best Self

 

I’m guessing you wouldn’t even have me on your radar if you didn’t desire to grow as a person, what Tony Robbins calls CANI – Constant And Never-ending Improvement. Yet, as the old saying goes, we are our own worst enemy. Oftentimes WE are the ones holding us back. Here are 4 ways we do it and how we can self-correct:

1. We Surround Ourselves With Negative People

 

First, you need to understand that you are strongly influenced by the people you surround yourself with and spend the most time with. Guru Jim Rohn puts it simply, “You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Without your being aware of it, having negative people around you can hold you back from being your best self. Are there people in your life who are always complaining and blaming others for their circumstances? Who are always judging others, spreading negative gossip, and talking about how bad life is? Do they constantly attempt to bring you back down to their level? Are they dream-stealers who try to dissuade you from believing in and pursuing your goals?

Surround Yourself With Encouraging People

Until you reach the point in your self-development where you no longer allow toxic people to hold you back with their victim mentality and their mediocre standards, you have to disconnect from their negative influences at all costs.

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If you are going to be great, you have to start spending more time with great people.

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I want you to make a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive, nourishing, and uplifting people. People who believe in you, encourage you to go after your dreams and applaud your victories.

 

2. We Hold on to the Past Hurts

 

The next obstacle that can be holding you back from greatness is holding on to the past. Most people go through life as if they are dragging a big anchor behind them that is weighing them down. They’re holding on to past hurts, past incompletes, past anger or fear. Releasing this anchor in the present is the final step to embracing the future. I have clients who forgive people, and a few months later they have doubled their income. Coincidence? I think NOT! They are simply being rewarded for doubling their productivity and doubling their ability to accomplish important goals.

Forgiveness Puts You Back in the Present

In any relationship, you need to make the choice to come from a place of love and forgiveness.

You don’t need to condone their past actions or even ever trust them again. You do need to learn whatever lessons you can take away from the experience, forgive the other person, and move on. When you forgive, it puts you back in the present without all the emotional baggage you’ve been carrying. You can now forge ahead and create the future you want.

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Talk with Tom: Episode #37 | TwT Motivational Minute: Organizing Emotions for Success

 

In this episode of the Talk with Tom Motivational Minute, Tom discusses how organizing emotions helps you to succeed. They aren’t to be dismissed, you want to master them. Tom gives some key points he gained from the book, Organize Your Emotions, Optimize Your Life: Decode Your Emotional DNA-and Thrive, by authors Margaret Moore, Edward Phillips M.D., and John Hanc.

Every month Tom shares topic after topic to Grow Your Life and Build Your Business. If you’re not already a subscriber, join us. Talk with Tom is 100% free, and there are special benefits available only to our subscribers, so be sure you subscribe yourself on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and we look forward to seeing you right back here on the last Wednesday of every month with Talk with Tom.

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5 Ways to Turn Your Negative Self-Talk Into Positive Self-Talk

 

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Life Area: Personal

Topic: Negative Self-Talk

5 Ways to Turn Your Negative Self-Talk Into Positive Self-Talk

 

Whether you tell yourself, “I’m never going to be promoted,” or you constantly think, “People think I’m weird,” negative self-talk affects how you feel and how you behave. In fact, the conversations you have with yourself often turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, imagine someone who thinks, “I’m socially awkward and no one wants to talk to me.” To cope with their awkwardness, they avoid striking up conversations with people and limit their interactions. Consequently, people think the person is socially awkward and therefore that belief about themselves is confirmed.

I’m reminded of a story my mentor and friend, Coach John Wooden, told me years ago of a prospective recruit visiting UCLA and telling Coach that he felt the people in Los Angeles weren’t very friendly. To which Coach challenged the young recruit that maybe it was he that was being stand-offish and not being very friendly to those who greeted him.

Negative self-talk and having our own limiting beliefs is a universal problem. Read about how to transcend your limiting beliefs in this guest post [here] and listen to this Talk with Tom podcast episode to learn more. Over the years, I’ve coached countless people on changing their negative dialogue. And I’ve seen first-hand how developing a more productive inner dialogue helps individuals create a more optimistic outlook and create positive change.

So whether you call yourself names or you always talk yourself out of trying something new, here’s how to deal with negative thoughts in a healthy way:

 

1. Recognize Your Negative Thoughts

When you get an email from the boss that says, “I need to meet with you as soon as possible,” is your first thought that you’re about to be fired or do you think you must be getting a raise?

Many of your thoughts are automatic. They just pop into your head without any conscious effort.

So it’s important to take a second to evaluate your thoughts so you can recognize thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, or irrational.

 

2. Look for Evidence That Your Thought IS True

Just because you think something doesn’t make it true. In fact, most of your thoughts are more likely to be opinions rather than facts.

So ask yourself, “What’s the evidence that this IS true?” Sticking with the example of the email from the boss, what evidence do you have that you’re about to be fired?

Create a list of the evidence that supports your thoughts. Perhaps you called in sick for days in a row recently. Or maybe you missed a deadline on an important project a month earlier. List as many reasons as you can.

 

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